I absolutely hate any time some fools feel like they are required to spout off and read off a laundry list of transgressions (most of which are exaggerated or imagined) that another group has committed. I have never understood why ‘normal’ people seem to thrive on interpersonal conflicts and strife.
We see it all the time; liberals vs. conservatives, racial divides, capitalists vs. socialists, men and women calling each other out, religious adherents and atheists unloading on each other, nerds and jocks despising each other on every high school campus, the elderly thinking all young people are lazy and unruly while the young believing the elderly are all parasitizing via social security and not providing adequate guidance, etc. etc. Even those of us in the mentally ill community often have our issues with each (namely among the medicate vs. don’t medicate or the work vs. disability insurance routes). The most ironic part of these interpersonal squabbles is regardless of what side of an argument you are on, each side has at least a few legitimate points. In spite of our differences we really aren’t that different. And the way we treat each other over these minor differences is really wrong and petty.
I definitely have my beliefs about many topics that we humans think upon. I will under no circumstances discuss anything of any intellectual weight or contention unless I am for sure that the discussion will remain civil and not devolve into a modern version of two bands of cavemen brandishing sticks and grunting at each other over who gets the last slabs of wooly mammoth meat. I promise here and now if I ever make it to any kind of fame I will never volunteer to take part in any debate with another person or panel under any circumstances unless I am completely cured of schizophrenia.
To me, listening to debates is the same as watching monkeys at the zoo fling manure at each other. It makes a major mess, the monkeys get riled up for awhile, and nothing is really accomplished. I may do a TEDx talk if I ever gained any kind of traction, but that is decades away. I’ve seen too many debates and ‘Crossfire’ type shows to believe that any kind of informing, enlightenment, and mutual respect goes on. Do not even get me going on politics and voting. I intentionally lie to pollsters just to throw a small wrench in their numbers. I know they interview thousands of potential voters, but since politicians have blatantly and knowingly lied to constituents ever since there were politicians and constituents I figure this is my little way of protesting without being labeled like one of these hippies from the 1960s or one of the Occupy Wall Street guys. I probably shouldn’t lie as it violates the whole Golden Rule (and I don’t mean ‘he who has the most gold has the most rule’).
One of the religious teachings I agree with states ‘let the one lacking in sin (or faults) throw the first stone.’ I have no doubt that every belief system in the world has their own uniquely worded version of this. It is one that while we do not practice all the time. If we did, at least 90 percent of our interpersonal strife would immediately vanish. When we are actually intellectually honest we will acknowledge we don’t know everything, we don’t have all the answers, and we have faults in our beliefs. We are not perfect, no one is, and we would be better off to not expect perfection out of anyone. We know it is right to treat others with respect. We know it feels good when we are treated with respect ourselves. Do to others as you would have done to yourself isn’t just a feel good meme or ancient proverb derived two millennium ago, it is a basic pillar on which civilized life is built on. The whole idea of I got to get mine and kill or be killed is a relic of pre history that would be best left in a museum, not practiced in our interpersonal, inter business, and inter national relations.
Anyway, as a mentally ill person I have a hard time dealing with uncivilized behavior and heightened emotions (namely negative ones) without the whole deal feeling like it is becoming a personal attack. I literally feel physically threatened and scared to the point of anger (anger often is just a mask for fear) during heated discussions. As a man who is much larger than most, I don’t think it would bode well for anyone if I went Ice Age Neanderthal hunter on an unsuspecting person who is either trying to win a discussion or just being a troll.
In short, to my mentally ill friends and readers, feeling like melting down on someone in a heated situation may be unavoidable, but never act out on it. Ever. Fortunately I haven’t been in a fight since sixth grade, long before I got a mental illness or twice the size of most humans. Sometimes a person just has to cut their losses and run, especially when dealing with mental illness. Dealing with people who refuse to act civil and risking an assault charge because you had a mental break is not worth it.