It’s been a long time since I’ve had a sense of calm and normal. But things are finally starting to settle and slow down. I’m progressing enough in my chiropractic therapy I go in only twice a week. My EoE is being treated and I’ve altered my diet to account for many possible food allergies. So my stomach feels better and I’m not as easily irritable as I was earlier this fall.
After a couple hectic and stressful days last week, things started calming down yesterday. I made no attempt to fight the mobs on Black Friday. Instead I stayed home, watched football, listened to audiobooks on youtube, and drank a few cups of black tea. Found that black tea is easier on my stomach and gives me just enough caffeine to keep sharp for those late night research sessions. I’ll probably switch over entirely this winter.
My back isn’t hurting anymore. Even the tail bone injury I had years ago in high school has cleared up. I always thought it was one of those things I was doomed to live with. Too bad I didn’t get it worked on shortly after it happened. But chiropractic treatments were even less mainstream then now.
Now I have my car back and it looks as if the accident never happened. I have also more or less begun my winter routines. We’ve already had a couple light snows. Found my car handles well on ice. That was one of my concerns going into the first winter with a different car. But this car is low enough miles it should last me at least ten to twelve years.
I’ve now come to the acceptance part of my grandmother’s death. I was more easily irritated and depressed for probably three months, which I think was part of my grieving process. But she was a positive influence on my life for years. And I was talking to her right until she had a major stroke about ten days before she died. She was mentally sharp at her birthday party in June but she wasn’t very mobile because of physical health problems. It has to be tough being mentally sharp but feeling your body fall apart. It was bad enough for myself knowing my ability to process stress and social situations because of my schizophrenia while my cognitive ability remained relatively changed. Being in a car accident didn’t help with the irritability and short temperedness.
I’ve also come to the acceptance that, barring some miracle of future science and medicine, I’m not going to ever be able to handle any kind of job where I can use my natural intellect. Coming to this acceptance has only happened recently and it was by far the toughest aspect of my life I had to accept. I grew up believing that if one found their niche and developed that niche, then good things would happen. Found out at a very early age I had some unusual intelligence. I also learned I had almost no bodily coordination and hated athletics. So I never had any dreams of playing pro football. I wasn’t very good with my hands but was excellent with ideas and scientific concepts. I decided I wanted to be a scientist even before I started kindergarten. Unfortunately that dream didn’t come true. After gutting through almost two years of biology and chemistry classes while fighting a mental illness, it became painfully obvious that I wouldn’t get to pursue the dream any more.
The worst part of coming to this acceptance was knowing that I did everything right in life and I still would never use my ability. I didn’t drink, I didn’t do drugs, I didn’t have sex, let alone date much, etc. I spent most of my weekends and evenings studying for my classes while many of my classmates were out partying and screwing around. And I was well on my way of making something positive out of myself. But it never happened because of schizophrenia. It took pretty much everything from me. And it even messes with your mind, unlike most physical diseases. Well schizophrenia is the result of brain issues. It was rough seeing everything I worked for gradually destroyed piece meal. For a long time I tried to figure out what I did wrong. Once I came to the conclusion I did nothing wrong, I blamed others for the illness happening. Once I got past that and accepted it was what it was, I have settled in for the long haul. Now I’m trying to keep even keel and make the best of a lousy situation.
You’re a brave person. I wish you well.
I agree with Kitt. So glad that you have worked things through to best possible solution. Many people don’t get to that stage. It must be a continual struggle.
I’m sorry your big dreams got dashed and your plans were thwarted. You are right to grieve over this loss. Many experts say schizophrenia symptoms lessen as one ages. I hope this is true for you. Keep learning and self educating as it’s good for your brain and self esteem.