Been a decent last few days overall. Spent this afternoon cleaning some in my apartment. I may have a cleaner come in once a week, but I do feel guilty if I don’t bare minimums on my own even with my limited mobility. Haven’t needed as much sleep lately either. Been usually going to bed around midnight, sleep three hours or four hours, stay awake until sunrise and then sleep again until ten a.m. Haven’t been reading or writing as much as I would like this summer. At least I have reestablished more regular contact with friends and family. I felt guilty for not going to my family reunion last month. But I wasn’t feeling the greatest and I didn’t want to have problems around people and scare them. Sure my family would be more understanding than most families, but I don’t feel right taking out my issues on others.
Haven’t had any real bad meltdowns in months. I have had a few close calls. Fortunately, I have managed to not take them out on others. I have had to avoid contact with people some days just so not to cause problems. Even after twenty years with a mental illness, I am still afraid to have a meltdown in public. I fear most people who don’t know me would not understand. And many people are already more stressed than normal these days.
Found that listening to music helps sooth me. So I’ve been listening to more music this summer. I used to listen to music almost every day. Even though heavy metal and blues were my favorite styles, I really didn’t have a style I didn’t like. Youtube and Spotify are gold mines of good music, and my Spotify costs like 12 dollars a month for the service without advertisements. It is not uncommon for me to have music on while I play Civilization or the Total War series.
Haven’t watched as much baseball this summer. The Rockies are slightly below .500, so they won’t likely make the playoffs. Haven’t watched much for sports since the U.S. women took the World Cup. I got to see most of those games. I have been watching old football highlights on youtube, mostly Nebraska from the 80s and 90s, to get ready for football season. First college games are in only a few weeks. Summer is definitely drawing down.
I guess I have been taking it easier than normal this summer. I still lift weights three times a week and do the exercise bike a few times a week too. I try to socialize some every day, even if it is just online or over the phone. Social media isn’t as stressful for me as it was a few years ago now that I have figured out how to better use it. I have lots of friends on my lists, but only a handful I actively follow on a day to day basis. I spend a lot of time with small tech enthusiast groups. I try to avoid the larger groups as they can sometimes become kind of irritable with each other on controversial topics. I don’t post as much as I previously did, sometimes I’m more content to read linked articles and discussion threads. I try not to get involved in heated or pointless discussions. I make efforts not to feed trolls and troublemakers.
I believe that, overall, social media is a good thing. I also believe in free speech. And when free speech and social media gets combined, it allows me to find out what people are really like quickly. Sometimes it is good, sometimes it is not. But if privacy and deception aren’t dead, they are certainly on life support. Social media makes it easy for someone like myself who wants to have friends and be involved but doesn’t have great social skills. I am a bit socially awkward in person, so that is probably why I didn’t make a lot of friends until I went to college and met people even more awkward and quirky than myself. I don’t hide the fact I am eccentric and odd. As a grown man, I don’t feel the need to try to please people I’m probably not going to please to begin with. It’s too bad I couldn’t tell this to my teenage self. But it comes only with experience.