Besides my family and one college friend, I haven’t kept in strong contact with most of my friends the last couple weeks. My best friend’s mother died a few weeks ago and I haven’t talked to her much. I decided to let her do what was needed and not bother her much. She probably wasn’t much in the mood for talking the last few weeks. I haven’t had a parent die yet. All of my grandparents and a couple uncles have died. But I wasn’t really torn up by their deaths as I was just happy that such people had lived. At my grandparents’ funerals, the immediate family was mostly spending the time retelling stories of the cool and funny things they did during their lives. We weren’t crying that much but instead were celebrating their lives. There was almost as much laughter as crying at my grandfather’s funeral as the immediate family were retelling stories of my grandfather’s jokes and funny things he did during his life. And my last grandmother to pass away was quite sharp and aware until she had a stroke about two weeks before she died. But she was in her late nineties and had real bad arthritis to where she could barely walk. She had said for the last few years of her life that she wasn’t afraid of dying and that she was ready at any time. I think that maybe she was sad seeing most of her friends and family die over the years. Fortunately I was able to handle the grandparents’ funerals without any flare ups of my mental illness. I was a pall bearer for both my grandmothers.
I guess that as I have now crossed into my late thirties, I’m beginning to think about my own mortality a little. This has been especially true the last few months as I’m getting more unexplainable aches and pains and I can’t lift as heavy as items as I could previously. It also doesn’t help that schizophrenics, statistically speaking, have shorter life spans than mentally healthy people. If I were to die prematurely, I think I want to donate my body to science. I figure that something good should come from my having schizophrenia effect my mind and destroy my career.
I’m sorry for sounding morbid with this entry. But I have been thinking about how several people who have influenced me in my young years are now dying off. Even my own parents aren’t in the greatest health. But I guess they are in their late sixties. I’m thirty seven and that would have made me an elderly person in the Stone Age. But I suppose it doesn’t really matter how long you live as long as you make the most of the days you have.